Definition: A free act of thought by which one commits oneself entirely to accept or accomplish something.
THE YES
Whether it’s a sexual act, a kiss, a hug, a caress… Consent requires a clear and distinct “YES”. Silence, an unsure “yes”, hesitation, an imprecise nod… means “NO”.
THE LAWFULNESS
This “yes” has value only if each partner is LUCID and FREE of its CHOICES. That is to say, neither drunk, nor drugged, nor asleep, nor unconscious…
LA PRESSION / LA CONTRAINTE
Disposing of the other is not a right. The “conjugal duty” does not exist. No marital status, context, clothing, nor any promise, tradition, resignation to blackmail… does not constitute consent.
THE OTHERS
Consent includes not only the persons who commit an act, but also the individuals who are ABOVE. It is imperative to ensure that what is happening, and can happen, does not disturb anyone.
THE DOUBT
A “no”, even in the form of a joke, must be taken SERIOUSLY.
THE TIME
Consent is Ephemeral. Shyness, embarrassment, conditioning… can keep the partner(s) from saying that the desire has passed. It is therefore important to reiterate the request at each new practice and regularly during the act, for example with a “Are you okay? Obtaining consent once does not mean that it will be valid again.
THE LIMITS
The principles stated may vary depending on the relationship. It is important that the people involved clearly discuss them in order to define the framework for their consent, being aware of the risks involved.
Credit: MEDUSES PROJECT
This content was originally created by our Meduse Project partners, reproduced here with their permission and adopted by the Vegan Option Canada collective.